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Leave your house. No one ever found their gold medal love by staying cooped up in their apartment readingUsWeekly and eating Chinese takeout 7 days a week. Get out there and connect with the vibrant world. Give to it and watch what you will receive in return… lots of luscious like and love opportunities.

Spend time in your treehouse. No matter how much fun you are having dating or how in loooooove you are, you need time to yourself. You need time to reflect, to recharge, to reconnect with yourself. And if you are in a relationship, your man needs the same. Honor your individuality by gifting yourself this regularly.


Take the high road. Dating offers a myriad of options and choices where we can take the high road or the low road. For example, what happens when a boyfriend breaks your heart by doing something seemingly unforgiveable, is it ok to play the revenge card? Sure it might be momentarily satisfying, but in the end, you’ll feel worse for sinking to his level. By taking the high road, you’ll be proud of the woman in the mirror that you rise and shine to everyday.


Grow from your experiences. Every adventure in dating is a moment to learn from… both the obvious blessed ones and the absurd ones... if you press the pause button and give yourself the chance to do so. If not, your time and energy put in has been wasted, as opposed to being used for positive uplift.

Wear color. Despite our natural inclination to go for that LBD or other black ensemble, men are more attracted to color. Opt for jewel tones which look great on every skin tone, make your eyes pop and send a message that you are fun and confident, plus they set you apart from the sea of women donning boring black.

Believe in love. No matter how many unfavorable experiences you have, don’t lose faith in the beauty of love. Stay immersed in landscapes, people and emotions all wrapped up in a bow of love, and soak up their gorgeous goodness. Remember, those who believe in love are instantly more lovable.


Don't these sounds like rules that are easier, happier and more worthwhile to live and love by? What rules, traditional or otherwise have worked for you?

Live and love largely,


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