"The Rules" Rethought


"The Rules" Rethought

Grow from your experiences. Every adventure in dating is a moment to learn from… both the obvious blessed ones and the absurd ones... if you press the pause button and give yourself the chance to do so. If not, your time and energy put in has been wasted, as opposed to being used for positive uplift.

Wear color. Despite our natural inclination to go for that LBD or other black ensemble, men are more attracted to color. Opt for jewel tones which look great on every skin tone, make your eyes pop and send a message that you are fun and confident, plus they set you apart from the sea of women donning boring black.


Believe in loveNo matter how many unfavorable experiences you have, don’t lose faith in the beauty of love. Stay immersed in landscapes, people and emotions all wrapped up in a bow of love, and soak up their gorgeous goodness. Remember, those who believe in love are instantly more lovable.


Don't these sounds like rules that are easier, happier and more worthwhile to live and love by? What rules, traditional or otherwise have worked for you?

Live and love largely,


Article contributed by
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Tristan Coopersmith

Marriage and Family Therapist

Tristan Coopersmith, M.A. MFTi

Location: Hermosa Beach, CA
Credentials: BA, MA, MFTI
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