"The Rules" Rethought

 I get asked frequently if I subscribe to or prescribe traditional dating “rules” – you know things like wait x number of days to call a guy back, don’t sleep with a man before x number of dates, never be the first to say “I love you,” and so on and so on. Well the simple answer, is no. Living a life, a love one or otherwise by a code of hard and fast rules doesn’t allow for flexibility of circumstance. Many rules need to be used as a learner’s guide and then modified based on your personal belief system and what directly works for you as a result of having tested them out. Each of us is a living laboratory and with constant experimentation and analysis, we can learn what formulas so to speak, provide us with our desired results, so don’t be afraid to tweak, tweak, tweak away in your personal lab.

 

That said, on my own journey and along the journey of my clients and readers, I’ve learned some rules that never seem to fail anyone. Here is a sampling of them:

 

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