6. Create an affirmation. Develop a mantra that you repeat just before or during sex that injects your confidence with a boost. When your nerves start to rattle or the “good girl” in you takes over whispering in your ear, “you can’t do that,” use your affirmation to jolt you into sex goddess mode.
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7. Get inspired. Ms. Morse also recommends reading up on sex. Two books she suggests: The Joy of Sex and The Guide to Getting it On. Emily warns, “Don’t get overwhelmed by the volume of choices or complicated options. Start slowly and simply by picking one tip and do it the next time you have sex. Remember that you are not going for award winning moves here – just easy tricks to expand your repertoire and build your self-confidence.”
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8. Wear a wig.
Perhaps your man has mentioned a time or three how much he’d love to see you dressed up as a naughty nurse or a bad cop but the idea of it is just too much to bare. Instead start with a wig. Admit it - you’ve always wanted to know what you’ve looked like as a blonde bombshell or a red-headed seductress – now is your chance. Slipping on a wig allows you the freedom to step outside of yourself and be someone else.