How to Change Your Man

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Think about how it makes you feel when you get them – be specific. Think about how it makes you feel when you don’t get them - be specific... you will need to share these later.

3) Think about how him giving more compliments can benefit him. Will it make him feel better about himself? Will it help him make friends? Will it help him be a better boss? Will it someday make him a good dad as it will inject his children with beautiful self-esteem? Remember that he will have to work to change and any type of work requires incentive.

4) Choose a good time and a good location. Don't introduce the idea of change to your man when he is stressed out, after a long day, when he's rushing off to hang with his friends or any other time where he isn't relaxed and open to giving you his undivided attention. Grab him when he is in a good mood, too... and don't make this talk feel threatening - present it as a positive opportunity to keep him from going into defense mode.

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Tristan Coopersmith, M.A. MFTi
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Location: Hermosa Beach, CA
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