How to Change Your Man

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5) When you approach your man about this subject, use “I” statements and be vulnerable. Men like to be men… meaning they want to be needed and relied upon for small and large things so don’t be afraid to show him your dependent side – displaying your needs is healthy dependency!

6) Once you state your positive feeling, (for example: I feel appreciated when you tell me that I am important to you or I feel beautiful when you compliment my new outfits) follow it with your clearly stated need (for example: and I need to hear those things more often). Clarity is key for men. If they don’t get what you are saying, you will never get what you want.

7) Listen to what he has to say even if it isn’t what you want to hear, at first. Be understanding of his position.

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Tristan Coopersmith

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Tristan Coopersmith, M.A. MFTi
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Location: Hermosa Beach, CA
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