5. Be appreciative. A simple thank you goes a long way and encourages your partner to continue looking out for your needs. After all, no one likes to be taken for granted. Be thankful for the small things (i.e. when he finally lands his dirty socks in the laundry basket) and the big things (i.e. taking over all of your usual duties for a week when you have some serious work deadlines). When giving thanks focus your gratitude on him instead of the task – “Thanks for being such a lifesaver, honey. Cooking dinner tonight really helped me out and it was so yummy!” vs. “Thanks for cleaning the toilet.”
6. Tease each other. Remember when you were blissful newlyweds – before the kids, the mortgage, the lack of sleep and fun was integrated regularly into your relationship? Well to keep your marriage alive and kicking, you need regular injections of silly. Joking around, poking fun, teasing – even during arguments is perfectly healthy and research indicates strengthens unions.