10 things you absolutely must, no ifs and or buts about it, get from your man

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This doesn’t mean that he shouldn’t have a life, he should, it just means that he should be looking out for yours.

8. BELLY LAUGHS. While your man doesn’t need to be a stand-up comedian, he should be able to spike your days with a dose of laughter. Life can be hard and your guy needs to be someone who is dedicated to turning your cloudy days blindingly sunny. We all know laughter is the best medicine and having it as a primary ingredient in a relationship recipe is critical to its short and long term health.

9. TO FEEL HOT! Assuming you are putting the effort in to maintain your appearance, it is your man’s duty to lust after you – to remind you that you got it going on. From complimenting you on an outfit to noticing a new haircut to a for-no-reason-at-all “you are so beautiful” reminder message, your guy should make you feel gorgeous.

10. A GROWN UP. A healthy relationship begins with two people who come together already completed, mature and ready for the great responsibilities that comes with love. Simply, it is not a woman’s job to raise her man. Your Mr. Right should not rely on you to be his life mechanic, thinking you can fix his financial, psychological or emotional problems. He needs to have healed his mistakes and hurts of the past and now be solid and whole so that he is able to face new challenges confidently when they arise as well as be a strong support system for you.

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Tristan Coopersmith, M.A. MFTi
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Location: Hermosa Beach, CA
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