The 5 Least Sexy: Best Sex Tips To Know
By Tove Gilbert-Morgan. Posted on .
1. At the center of a thriving sexuality is a “U”.
2. The condition of the heart isn’t just for loving, but also for lovemaking.
3. Slow down.
4. Consent is a beautiful thing.
5. Safety
1. At the center of a thriving sexuality is a U.
i. I know it sounds corny, but you have to love yourself first. Come to terms with who you are, how you feel, what you want (not what you think you should want), and authentically enjoy yourself. Be in the moment. Click here for a Step- by –step
guide to loving yourself.
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2. The condition of the heart isn’t just for loving, but also for lovemaking. i. The basis of the penis is “spongy tissue” which is filled with blood to make an erection. If you like your erection then you should be taking care of the cardiovascular tissue too. That
means no smoking, do your 30- 60 minutes of exercise and eat your vegetables.
3. Slow down.
i. Like the wonderful meals from the crock-pot that has been cooking all day, the meat all juicy just falls all over; you and your lover could be just like that too. Start out with some flirting texts (keep it simple like, e.i. I am thinking about you, you drive me wild, or I’m already imaging tonight) don’t go off texting pictures of your junk. That can get you fired, in more ways than one. For more ways to learn about the wonder of
mindful sex click here.
4. Consent is a beautiful thing.
i. Truth be told, this should be number 1. Unfortunately we don’t live in a society that supports getting consent or understanding our own personal boundaries. (for more on this click here) I hear all the time that the reason people don’t want to ask if someone wants to participate in sex is that they are afraid the other person will say “No”. Ok, I don’t think I need to be a rocket scientist to figure out, if someone isn’t interested in
having sex with me, it isn’t going to be the best time. I am interested in having the BEST sex possible, so I want to make sure the person is on board with me, not just a little, but a hole lot, like “YES! YES! YES!” -a lot.
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5. Safety
i. Safety can mean a lot of things to a lot of people. Whenever I say it, I always think of Pretty Woman “I’m a safety girl”, meaning condoms. I love condoms, and I hope you do too. There is something so beautiful about protecting and respecting yourself and your partner. MEOW! In addition, it helps with clean up. If you are unsure if your possible partner has an allergy to latex, make sure you carry polyurethane or “plastic” condoms with you too. You don’t want to be all hot and heavy in a situation and then be like, “oh I’ll break out into anaphylactic shock”. Yeah, so not sexy.
