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Hot Monogamy CAN Exist! 3 Ways To Spark Your Relationship Fire

how to get the spark back in your marriage
Love, Sex

If things get a little dull...

When I wrote my book, The Long Hot Marriage, my brother exclaimed, "Oh, you wrote a fairy tale!"  

It was a funny line but let me tell you something: The Long Hot Marriage is no fairy tale! Hot monogamy is a reality!

Here are 3 ways on how to get the spark back in your marriage. This will make sure you experience the wonderful gift of a long and passionate relationship:

1. Dare to leave your comfort zone often.

 

Your ancestors basically did not do this with their partners. Take a chance, reveal something about yourself, and do something novel with your partner.  

Get more comfortable with being uncomfortable. Be a maverick. You already know that the success you have had in other areas of your life would not have happened without taking some risks.

2. Practice seeing the best in your partner and compliment them often.

Find ways to like your partner. Accept your partner’s flaws and fully enjoy his or her strengths. 

3. Take an honest look at your mindset about sex. 

Do you have any hang-ups or holdbacks? We all have them. You do need to hold onto your integrity. In other words, don’t do anything that is against your deepest principles or morals.

However, be willing to express your sexuality more than before. Stretch in this area. Be more open and fluid in your mindset. Experiment with your partner.

This all only happens if you take some time to work on yourself and your relationship. You need to do something different to create something different and hot monogamy is totally possible as long as you do the steps.  

Todd Creager is an expert in relationships. If you feel blocks in one or more of these steps, contact him so he can help you remove the obstacles so that you may have the relationship of your dreams.   

This article was originally published at Todd Creager's website. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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