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How EMDR Helps Relationships For The BETTER (And What You Need To Know)

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EMDR: Helping Couples remove emotional and/or sexual blocks
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EMDR is an effective tool for people blocked emotionally or sexually with past traumas.

I've discussed EMDR in a few past blogs. It stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessingAs I've mentioned, EMDR is a well researched and very effective approach to help people move through past pain so they can live more in the present.

In this article, I want to briefly talk about how I use it with couples that come to see me. Sometimes one or both partners are blocked — emotionally or sexually — because of some earlier past trauma or multiple traumas.

Often, past events can cause a person to have negative limiting beliefs which can prevent them from being closer to others in positive ways. I've helped people resolve these past memories using this approach so that they could see each other in new fresh ways rather than project their traumatic histories onto their partner.

This projection process happens unconsciously and the partner can take on the imagined qualities of past people who have hurt them. These past people can include parents, past partners who have rejected or cheated on them, or any other significant people who have caused them pain that they were not able to process through.

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Another way I've used EMDR is with couples who have gone through infidelity, and I help them heal from it.

Sometimes, the relationship shifts to the positive and the partners learn to solve problems in more open and honest ways. Yet, the person who was betrayed has a hard time letting go of the traumatic experience of first discovering the infidelity.

I always hope the betrayed person process the pain of that experience so that he or she is free to have the relationship that they want with their partner.

This process of eye movement desensitization and reprocessing is incorporated into my overall approach that helps couples heal and thrive.

If you are interested in how Todd Creager's approach in utilizing EMDR can help you in your relationship, please contact him.

 

This article was originally published at Todd Creager's website. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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