Doing these things will create the chemistry of increased sexual arousal.
In the beginning of most relationships, both partners are sexually charged. There is actually a specific neurochemistry that takes place in the first stages of relationships that drive us to be naturally sexually aroused.
The great news is that even though the neurochemistry in our brain changes when we are together for a while, there are things we can do and say that will create the chemistry of increased sexual arousal.
In the very least, these tips allow for sexual arousal to happen easily and having increased sexual and sensual stimulation is the basis for eroticism.
1. Think about sex more, even if you usually don’t.
Spend a minute or less every hour of your workday (or time when you and your partner are apart) thinking of what you can do with him or what he can do for you. That’s all it takes.
Imagine your sexiest self — what you're wearing, what you're saying, and what you're doing. Remember, your brain is your sex organ, so use it!
2. Take your focus off having an orgasm.
Be sensual. Touch each other. Caress each other slowly without a goal of the big "O". As you slow down and really experience touch as well as the other 4 senses with your partner, that can be very erotic and arousing.
As you put more of an emphasis on the arousal and maintain the state of arousal longer, you are creating a more erotic environment. Sex now becomes more about play and elongated pleasure and less about "finishing". Of course, this kind of sexual play and excitement creation can lead to more robust orgasms as well.
3. Do nice things for each other.
Go out of your way to please your partner outside the bedroom. Yes, what you do outside the bedroom definitely contributes to the sexual energy between you. Many people cannot go from cold to hot — they need to go from warm to hot.
So, be intentionally kind and giving. This last tip cannot be overemphasized. Loving kindness is a great aphrodisiac!
Your sexual potential is there for you to manifest. If you follow these three tips, it will do wonders for your sexual relationship. Enjoy!
This article was originally published at Todd Creager's website. Reprinted with permission from the author.