10 Sexting Tips


10 Sexting Tips
What works and doesn't in the sexting realm

Oh the Joys of Sexting.



Urban Dictionary defines sexting as:


v: the act of text messaging someone in the hopes of having a sexual encounter with them later; initially casual, transitioning into highly suggestive and even sexually explicit.

Sexting can create a heightened sense of arousal and can be a great way to flirt and play with a partner or potential partner.

Its a way to share fantasies via words, pictures and even videos.

Actually its a great way to have ‘safe sex’ as no touching occurs, no ‘real’ sex that is; only electronic inspired horniness, erections, arousal, lubrication, panting, lusting and at times…. release.

In the Girls Guide to Sexy Text Messages 


The author suggests this sext as a way to really turn on your partner:
I could really get him over the edge with a sexy conversation starter like this one…

Me: “Hey babe. I just got out of the shower and started massaging my body lotion all over me. I got hot thinking about something you do to me…”

Him: “You know I love to do all kinds of things to you. Which one are you thinking of?”

Me: I’m thinking about how turned on I get when you start gently twisting my nipples with your magic fingers while you plant wet kisses behind my ears. I’m getting hot just thinking about it.”

Bleck….I’ll pass on the ‘magic fingers’!


I would not think many men would find this an ‘over the edge’ sext.  Maybe if she sent a video of her massaging the body lotion all over, or indicated exactly what she wanted him to do with his body or to hers, outside of wet kisses and magic fingers.

There are too many bad examples that are cheesy, too romantic and wishy washy.


Sexting is flirty, playful, direct, hot, and tempting.

An another example of a flirty yet non direct approach is:



Her: So I haven’t heard from you in a while
Me: Can’t stop thinking about me huh?
Her: You wish, something smelled bad in the trash and I thought of you
Me: Not surprised, you are a pretty filthy girl
Her: Only in bed
Me: Yeah maybe we will have another shot at that sometime. (If you are lucky)
Her: I wanna be lucky!
Me: I used to have a dog named lucky, If you want… I still have his collar
Her: Ruff Ruff!!!
Me: I think I might have to keep you away from the cat box
Her: ROLFL, shut up! That is so gross! My dog does that all the time.
Me: Okay, lucky the dog. Beg for me and I will see you on Saturday
Her: Already on my knees

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Tiffany Anton

Sex Therapist

Tiffany Anton, LCSW

Anton Therapy Services, LLC

Location: Madisonville, LA
Credentials: LCSW, MSW
Other Articles/News by Tiffany Anton:

5 Reasons The Other Woman Slept With Your Man


Recently, I read an article by Farrah Gray entitled "Why The Other Woman Slept With Your Man." Farrah's article includes 6 reasons she slept with your man: She's selfish She has no morals She's psycho She's accessible She's just that dumb She's desperate This list had over 18,200 ... Read more

Are You Experiencing Love At First Sight Or Lust At First Sight?


For years we have heard about love at first sight. We hear this so often that we hope it happens to us. We wish to experience that immediate attraction and hopefully lifelong commitment to our prince charming or princess. Unfortunately, experiencing the feeling of love is a long-term process; thus, it cannot be felt immediately. However, lust at first sight ... Read more

6 Dangerous Thoughts That Encourage Jealousy In Your Relationship


I made a comment recently saying, "No other person is a threat to us unless it's violence." Whether it's your husband's secretary, the cute guy working behind the reception counter at the gym, a the hot lady dancing near your husband on the dance floor and giving him the eye of interest, or a co-worker and so on, it seems that many women ... Read more

See More

Latest Expert Videos
Most Popular