Dancing In The Dark: Reclaiming Sexual Desire In Relationships


Dancing In The Dark: Reclaiming Sexual Desire In Relationships
It takes more than just showing up to reclaim or renew a good sexual relationship.

Turn the volume up on the romance in small ways and you will turn the volume up on the desire, imagination and sexual connection.

If you are wondering: Will it make a difference? Will my partner take it seriously? Can we reclaim sexual intimacy even if there are days we don’t really like each other? Will it matter as long as we keep trying?


Consider: Does anyone learn the Tango in a day?

There is something uniquely special about Dancing in the Dark with someone you love.

For Further Reading:

Fisher, H. 2004 Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love. New York: Henry Holt and Company.

Hatfield, E. S., Sprecher, J. Traupmann, Pillemer, D. Greenberger, and P. Wexler.1989. Gender differences in what is desired in the sexual relationship. Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality 1 (2): 39-52.

Mitchell, S. A. 2002 Can Love Last? The Fate of Romance over Time. New York: W. W. Norton

This article was originally published at PBS This Emotional Life . Reprinted with permission.
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