Learn how to express anger in healthy ways and feel more empowered and alive.
Anger is such a difficult emotion for so many of us to express. Women, especially, are taught that anger is ugly and we are bitchy if we complain or vent about feeling upset. Afraid of our anger and what it might appear like, we tend to hold it in and repress it.
Simmering inside of us, it either turns into depression and we take it out on ourselves through addiction or eating poorly, etc, or it erupts like a volcano and comes out sideways and squirrely, not how we intended. Then we have to apologize to those we have taken it out on, and feel poorly about ourselves in the aftermath of our explosion.
What if allowing our anger and releasing it in healthy ways actually propelled us forward on our spiritual journey, providing us with a connection to our personal power and awakening our passion? What if expressing it created room for more of our love and light to shine through? What if expressing it was actually an important part of our spiritual practice of connecting to God/Spirit/Source and Oneness?
During a recent healing ritual with four women friends, I experienced the release of anger through screaming, stomping my feet and shaking my fits. I felt like a child having a temper tantrum because it didn’t get its own way. I was shocked by the magnitude of my anger as I had no idea it was there. The only “story” I was able to connect it to was my inability to create a baby. I was angry at God/Life and myself for not being able to make it happen.
In allowing my anger and surrendering control, an amazing thing happened…I felt so much lighter and happier. My creative life force energy came more alive. As the Kundalini Shakti energy was activated, I could embody more of my light, my Soul. Further, expressing my anger, I felt stronger and more powerful.
Many of us, when we experience loss, also experience anger. Our hopes and dreams have been crushed, life didn’t turn out the way we had planned or expected. Anger is an important part of the grieving process, not to be ignored. As we release our anger, not only do we make more room for our light, but we are able to forgive those we feel wronged by, whether it is another person, God or ourselves.
Here are some tools to help you express anger in healthy and constructive ways:
1. Write a letter to vent your anger. Don’t be afraid to use cuss words if it helps. Then burn this letter. Write another from your higher self or heart. You can send it to the person you were angry with, bury it in the earth, or burn it once the energy is complete and your anger has subsided.
2. Physically release your anger. Use a pillow to scream into or scream in your car where no one can hear you. Stomp your feet, shake your fists and release it from your body. Pound nails with a hammer into a piece of scrap wood.
3. Journal about your anger. What is it about? What is underneath it? Usually anger represents hurt, fear, or frustration about not having control over a person or situation.
4. Find where anger lives in your body. Have a conversation with it asking why it is there and what it needs to transform. Feel whatever feelings come up associated with your anger.
5. Use the energy of your anger to fuel your passion. Create something out of your anger…a poem, a piece of artwork, a new book or business.
6. Reach out for help from a counselor or therapist. Find someone you feel safe with who is skilled and experienced.
As you express your anger, you will have more energy for your life! You will feel more awake and alive!