The quest to make a man love you begins with common sense.
There are some people who argue that you can’t make a man love you. Bonnie Raitt, in fact, has a whole song about it, singing the lyrics of “I can’t make you love me if you don’t” and then a bunch of other words. But, despite what the Blues would have you believe, the fact is it’s very possible to make a man love you. Possible and not all that difficult.
Of course, it’s not just Bonnie’s song that perpetuates the idea that luring a man is footed in unrealistic expectations. Many people claim that men don’t change the way they feel (they may have a point….The Simpsons has been on for like a thousand years) and women are unable to be a catalyst of alteration. Others believe that specially scented perfumes or love potions are the only plausible ways to make a man run to your arms.
However, without the need for gimmicks, mind games, or magical elixirs, there are still ways to make a man love you and these include:
Be a little mysterious: There’s a reason some of the best-selling writers write tales of mystery: we love us a good thriller. Whether this love of mystery is shown by what is on our bookshelves or demonstrated by the mates we choose, there’s something about elusiveness that makes people want to pursue.
Of course, this doesn’t mean you should be overtly mysterious in order to make a man love you: not giving them your name or phone number may not only fail at making a man love you, but it will also fail at making a man contact you. Rather, what this means is you should play a little hard to get. Men like the chase, so believe that you’re someone worthy of it.
Induce confidence: One of the biggest problems men have in their dating lives is a lack of confidence: they think they aren’t rich enough or good-looking enough. Some women don’t want to deal with this: if a man isn’t confident, they believe, it’s his problem, not hers. But, if you really want to make a man love you, the best option is to induce the confidence they so greatly covet.
You can do this several different ways, from complimenting their strong points to refraining from pointing out their pitfalls. You can also ask them for help, even if you don’t necessarily need it. Men love to be needed — that’s the very reason why so many knights in shining armor end up pursuing the damsel in distress.
Give him room: If men were a keyboard, they’d be the space bar and, if you didn’t allow this, they’d move on up to the escape button. While not all men are like this, the majority of them are: they want time to their selves and they value independence. Because they care about these things so deeply, being clingy will not make a man love you, it will only make one move away from you.
The problem many women face when it comes to the static-clinginess of a new relationship is that they can’t draw the line between a normal amount of contact and “I called you this morning to see if you got my message from last night and now I’m calling you to make sure you got my message from this morning.” But, a good rule of thumb is this: if you’re wondering whether or not you’re being too clingy, there’s a good chance that you are.
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