Single & Ready To Mingle: Finding A Boyfriend/Girlfriend Pt. 1

Dating: Finding Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Part 1

We all know that the search for that special person is not the easiest thing in the world.

It can be hard to figure out where to look for a boyfriend/girlfriend... Dating sites seem to offer more than their fair share of incompatible people. The bar scene rarely ever proves to be promising. A lot of people share their frustrations about the lack of time to look for that person that they want to spend their time with, let alone their lives. There are plenty of ways to meet people, but first you need to know what type of boyfriend or girlfriend that you are looking for.

Here are some tips on where to start:

  • Get to know yourself first. If you don't know exactly who you are and what you really want out of life, you're going to have a difficult time knowing who is going to be the right choice for you. Sit down and make a list of things that you want out for yourself and what it is going to take for you to reach those goals. Then you will have a better idea of the type of person that you are looking for in life.
  • Work towards your goals. Put the most important things in your life first. When you are working towards your own future, it shows. People see that you are not a needy, insecure person who is looking to find a mate. If they see a person who knows what they want out of life and is working towards it— that is an incredibly appealing quality in a person. People who are working towards their goals tend to draw people to them with their confidence. 
  • Don't try to be someone that you're not. If you are looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend or just a friend, the most important thing is to be yourself. If you feel the need to put on a front and pretend to be someone else, there is bound to be a problem. You don't want to meet someone that is putting on a show only to find out later that they are far from the person that you thought they were. There is no good reason for you to do the same. Now, if you're a little rough around the edges, you might want to work on making changes to yourself before looking to meet that special someone.
  • Don't tell all your secrets right away. I'm not telling you to be dishonest, but there is no need to dump your whole life story on to someone right away. It can be a little overwhelming and disturbing to the other person. You might have a difficult time getting a second date if you scare the person off on the first date.
  • Remove the negative traits in yourself. If you are the type of person who is easily insecure or jealous, those are things that you really need to work on in advance. No one likes a person who is going to be controlling or manipulating. It's a giant red flag to run in the opposite direction. If a person isn't going to be faithful to you, they aren't the type of people that you want in your life. Period!
  • Stop looking so hard! If you are the type of person who feels that you need to really impress someone in order for them to be interested in you, you may be looking a little too hard. If you are trying harder than you should, it will become very apparent to the other person and they aren't likely to stick around very long. Take your time and keep in mind that you want the right person, not the "right now" person. You are more likely to find someone more compatible with you if you chose to get to know the person before jumping into a relationship with them right away.

This is just the short list of where to start within yourself before jumping into any relationships. It's incredibly important to know who you are, what you want in your life and out of a partner and what you may need to work on in order to look for a healthy relationship. It's not enough to just want a boyfriend or girlfriend. Being secure in yourself and who you truly are, is the first and most important first step in starting a relationship.

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Continue reading, Single & Ready To Mingle: Finding A Boyfriend/Girlfriend Pt. 2.

This article was contributed by Rose Leisure.


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