Have you ever lost a relationship because of something that you didn’t do? Did your relationship end because one party didn’t feel appreciated? Most of us begrudgingly walk around the house doing “chores” because we have to. How many of us actually commit acts of service though? Have you ever tried thinking about the things that you do as a way of showing your feelings rather than chores? How many of us have said, “If they really loved me, they would help me out more around the house?” Maybe you are the person who feels that you aren’t appreciated for the things that you do. You might be the type of person who shows your love and appreciation by doing things for the people that you care about. If not, try to dedicate some time each and every week to do something a little extra special for your loved one.
If you’re not the person who normally uses this behavior as a way to show their feelings, then you might be a little clueless as to where to start. Here are a few suggestions to get you on your way.
Starting From Scratch
Make a list. Sit down and write up a list of all the things that your partner wants to get done. This could be things around the home, starting a new project, going back to school, etc. Now make another list of all of the things that you can do to help them accomplish those goals. Maybe your loved one just wants a break but can’t take the time away from their normal daily activities. If you have children, you know how much time and effort it takes to raise them. Maybe you could step in and clean the house while taking care of the kids in order to give your honey some time to rest.
Make breakfast in bed. Surprise your sweetheart by bringing them breakfast in bed one morning. You can do this for any meal of the day, but there is something about breakfast in bed that makes for the start of a wonderful day!
Take care of your home. Don’t think of cleaning as a chore. Think of it as a way to help your partner. If you’re a stay at home parent, show your appreciation to your partner for them being the main financial support by taking care of everything else around the house. A lot of people will do “chores” because they need to but it wasn’t until I heard a man say how much he appreciated how much his wife did at home. She was a stay at home mom while he worked. She took care of the home and the children but he was the one who pointed out that she did it out of love. This definitely gave me a new outlook to washing clothes, scrubbing floors and all of the other household duties.