An even larger dimension gets highlighted when looking at this situation. Those who are part of the “Messy Middle” are not harboring viewpoints that are I opposition to each other in their minds. The views held in the middle are not really different views about the same place, but rather are different views for different places. The “Ambivalent Evangelicals” are not ambivalent at all. What they are doing is holding one view for how individuals should act and a different view for how individuals should be treated.
Thinking about this in other contexts, can help us realize that it is okay to have one view in our interpersonal actions but yet to support the rights of those who do not act in the way we approve of in the general society context. In this way, the possibilities for relationship are preserved. People are being loved as people and not only being valued based on whether or not they engage in the “right” acts.
Parents do not withdraw their love from their children just because the child has done something that is disapproved of. Parents are able to draw a distinction between opposing an action and continuing to allow the child to get the love that they need. This is not that different from what the ”Ambivalent Evangelicals” are doing, and we can learn from our surprise at the publication of this report. When we do this, we will understand that our views and beliefs are not as conflicted as we think. As we examine this and determine where we feel called to be, based on our own spirituality, we will find ourselves in a place of greater wholeness and peace.
Note: Language used was kept as close to the language of the report and the report language's scope among the LGBTQ community was not clear and probably relied on the interpretation of those surveyed by the study leaders.