State Of The Union – Your Union

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State Of The Union – Your Union
The President's State of the Union is over – what would be part of yours if given about your union?

In political chambers throughout the country, including in our national Capitol, political leaders give annual addresses to talk about how we are doing and what challenges we need to face in the year ahead.  Thinking about the highlights offered in the State of the Union tonight, there are similar categories that you could use to evaluate your union.  How would you rate your marriage, domestic partnership or other significant relationship?  Consider the following items to work out your State of the Union and use it to celebrate what has gone well and to advance in the coming year that with your significant other that you may write a wonderful story for your life together.  A recent study from Northwestern University has found that regularly reappraising your relationships can help you keep that loving feeling - so why not start with this list?

 

  • Roles.  How are the two of you working together in your partnership?  Have you adopted roles in your relationship that are appropriate and which give satisfaction to both of you?  Do you share in the responsibilities that will allow things to be accomplished by one or both of you in ways that respects the roles each of you has to play in those decisions and actions?  Do you work together in ways that makes each of you feel involved while not being smothered?
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The Rev. Christopher L. Smith

Marriage and Family Therapist

The Rev. Christopher L. Smith, LMFT has served as a national leader around mental health issues both within the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) and in professional counseling organizations.  He works directly with individuals, couples, families and supervisees as the Clinical Director of Seeking Shalom in New York City.  He also brings his insight to help a wider audience through writing, speaking and consultations.

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LAC, LMFT, LMHC, MDiv
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Forgiveness, Spiritual
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