Warning! Red Flags To Watch For On The First Date


Warning! Red Flags To Watch For On The First Date

3. Anger Management Needed - This is a classic red flag ignored time and time again. I have heard women make all the excuses. He just has a lot of passion or he is particular about the way he likes things. Make all the excuses you want, but if he is yelling at the waiter that the fish just isn’t right, or is rude to coffee shop employees, you can safely peek into what the future might be like. We have all seen the poor woman who spends half of her existence apologizing for her husband’s rude behavior and unless you want to be that person, run – don’t walk – in the other direction. Therapy Is Not Working! Now What?

4. Ex Trash Talker – She was absolutely crazy. She was super clingy. I had no idea she would back her car into my truck 26 times. Ok, I am giving him the benefit of the doubt that it might even be true, but if he chose to date her for three years – heck, even six months – that was pretty much his choice. In fact, if his ex was so bad, why did he even start dating her? As my Grandma always said, it takes two to tango. If he let that person into his life and then stuck around for it, something just ain’t right. From Ice To Nice: 6 Ways To Be More Approachable


5. Mr. One-Upper-You went to Italy. He did a month long gastro tour with Italy’s top chefs. You like opera. He dabbled in it a bit in college and is personal friends with the three tenors (when they were all alive) and has season tickets to the Met. It is great that he has travelled the world, had incredible experiences, and seems well connected. Unfortunately in Mr. One Upper’s eyes, your accomplishments will never be quite as good as his, your dreams not as big and your life not as important. He is never going to let you shine in the relationship and everybody needs to shine. These are some pretty good rules to follow but, more importantly, if you notice that you keep getting that feeling of disappointment or find yourself feeling a little uncomfortable about some of the things your date is saying, listen to it. That is your body being your very own dating coach-for free.

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