Turn The Walk Of Shame Into A Stride Of Pride

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Turn The Walk Of Shame Into A Stride Of Pride [EXPERT]
Do you feel regret after a one-night stand? It's time to rework your sex and dating expectations.

3. Learn from it.
If you find that this is happening regularly, and every time you feel like crap for the next couple of days, it just may not be what you are looking for. Enlist your friends to help you. Make sure they let you flirt, but also that they get you home at the end of the night. Or, alternatively, I encourage you to see it exactly for what it is and embrace it. Go into it in-control, making the decision to have fun and be happy about it. No one is a victim if they chose to do it, so if you make the decision to kiss someone for an evening take it for what it is. Then you can wake up with a smile on your face, and a great story in your pocket to retell at brunch with your girls.

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Understand that it's your responsibility to own your choices. If you choose to take home Mr. Right now, recognize the choice for what it is. There are no guarantees of romance, relationships or even a second date from this one experience. Not that something more can't grow; but it's NOT a guarantee.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Now that you've made your choice about where you stand on the pros and cons of walks of shame, stick to it. If you're worried about sticking to your guns, find a wingwoman to help you. If you're open to an occasional walk of shame, kick the judgmental voice out of your head.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Give some thought to what you're looking for out of these experiences. You don't have to become relationship-focused, if you decide that's not what you want right now, but there's something to be said for understanding your motives. If you're in it for fun, great. If there's another motive, you want to know what that is.

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