First Date Nightmares: Are You One Of Them?

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First Date Nightmares: Are You One Of Them?
Are you the "bad date?"

*Drag it out! I don’t know when we decided that every date needs to last hours. I don’t think anyone wins from that situation. Your first couple of dates should be short and easy. Set up a lunch or coffee date. Talk, ask questions, laugh…and leave. Your date will find you a lot more intriguing if he knows you have a life to get to, and it will give your date a reason to call and ask you out again soon.

*Dress inappropriately! Wear an outfit that makes you feel great and gives you confidence. If you are out with friends and want to wear a shirt that’s maybe little too low-cut, that’s fine. But it is not appropriate for your dates. The idea is to have someone interested in all of you, not just parts. Also, don't wear something that looks good but makes you feel stiff or awkward, as this translates to your behavior and body language. Remember, your objective is to get to know the other person and have fun in his or her company; you can't do that if you're distracted by your own clothes. Dress The Part To Steal His Heart

*Drink too much! You’re a little nervous about dinner with your new date, and you figure a glass of wine will take the edge off, right? There is nothing wrong with a drink or two with your date (depending on personal limits, of course). But nobody wants to talk to a drunk person across the table. Not only is it a turn-off, but you are more likely to share things you wouldn't normally share. You will wake up embarrassed the next day and you probably won’t get a call for a second date. 4 Alcohol-Free Date Ideas

*Reveal everything! As you are getting to know someone, keep the conversation interesting, but keep it light. No one needs to hear about former relationships or how many children you want. Not on the first few dates. Find fun and neutral topics that will give you a peek at this new man without sharing too much too soon. We all move at different paces and "putting it all out there" right away can be intimidating for some guys.

There’s no denying first dates can be intimidating and nerve-wracking; there can be a fine line between putting your best foot forward and being yourself. But, by keeping these simple tips in mind, your next first date can easily and quickly morph from an anxiety-ridden situation into a fun, relaxed event that hopefully leads to date #2.

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