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The article is a call to action to people to live their dreams instead of a life of mediocrity.

For many of us there are dreams we would like to realize however we constantly push these to the sideways. We forever decry lack of time, lack of resources and in some instances, we plainly blame others for not starting or let alone achieving our dreams. Most people hide behind “someday” as that day when they will act upon their dreams. “Someday” and blaming lack of everything under the sun are simply ways people use to avoid facing their fears and insecurities. This is a sure way for many of us to avoid disrupting our comfort zones and challenging the status quo.

Tim Ferris was on point when he stated that “someday is a disease that will take your dreams with you to the grave”. Most people are trapped in this quagmire hoping that perfect conditions should exist before they can take the first step. We fail to recognize that there is always the first day to everything that we need to do. For that reason, I believe that a cure to the “someday disease” is to find your starter button, switch it on and never switch it off again.

How do you find your starter button?

1.       Know your talents and strengths

In my work as a Human Resource professional I have been approached by people who were looking for work. In most cases these would be people I know or those referred to me. The first question I would normally ask is “what are your unique talents or skills that you can offer?” The response would be a loud silence and on that note, I would try to help the person and then ask, “which job do you want?”. The answer would be, “just get me any job”. This is just a demonstration of how people do not realize the great reserves of talent they possess. If you do not know your own capabilities how can you expect another person to assist you?  Discovering your strengths and talents will help you know what you are good at and equally so what you are not good at. Once you get to know this then you can be able to set yourself up for a better future.  You can use 360 assessments, The Clifton StrengthFinder and many other psychological assessments to discover your talents.

2.       Define your dreams

A dream, goal or aspiration should define what you would like to achieve no matter the circumstances. Imagine yourself to be exhausted, bruised and physically worn out and unable to walk and you were told that the glass of water in-front of you was the last to save your life. What would you do in this circumstance? What I mean here is that your dreams should outstrip your current capability to achieve them so that you can be inspired beyond your imagination. Your dreams are like the switch that turns your ignition on to motivate and energize you towards purposeful living. That is why Barbara Sher states that “as soon as you start to pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has a meaning”.

3.  Appreciate the obstacles

Most of us fail to switch our buttons into action because we allow obstacles to overwhelm us. Our response is to wish the obstacles away believing that the road to achieving our dreams should be a smooth linear path. There is an anonymous quote that says that “obstacles do not block the path, they are the path”. Out of obstacles we learn, we grow and take our life to a new trajectory. It is for this reason that Frank Clark stated that “if you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere”. Appreciate the learning and experience to be gained by defeating the odds.

4. Just switch the button on

Most of us are waiting for the moment when our kids are older to do what we like, we are waiting to have “enough” money before we can invest, the list goes on and on. We are waiting for perfect conditions before we can do anything.  Ann Wilson states that “perfection is the lowest standard to aim for because you’re never going to achieve it, so it gives you an excuse to do nothing”.  Waiting for perfect conditions is a sure way to miss your dreams. Locate your starter button and get your dreams to fruition.

Get started, it’s as simple as that.

To do this, take time to identify your areas of strength and articulate your dreams and aspirations clearly. Make a note of what might stand in your way and have an action plan to go beyond this.

Tex Hlalele is a life coach and inspirational speaker. Book coaching and speaking engagements at Dreams Made Possible. If you like this piece please sign up to receive email correspondence that will come to you once a week. Feel free to share the content on the social media platforms as many times as you like.

This article was originally published at Dreams Made Possible. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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