Why This is NOT the Time to Let Your (Control) Freak Flag Fly


Why This is NOT the Time to Let Your (Control) Freak Flag Fly
If you want to take those exciting leaps forward toward what you want, you have to let control go.

Why do smart, savvy people get stuck like this? Because the urgency to change is not there. The pain of not changing is too far in the future. The fear of failure obliterates the reality that if you don’t change something, you will stay where you are. The frustration of not living the life you want to live feels so distant that you keep hoping a miracle will occur without your needing to change anything. In other words, that enhanced, deep pain of not having what you want seems so far away that you can’t feel it yet. It’s sort of like why people abuse their bodies – it doesn’t show up right away. When you’re having a few too many drinks, you’re not thinking of the hangover that’s coming the next day.

A miracle is actually waiting to occur and you’re blocking it by not allowing the flow. When you stop worrying about the how, the opportunities become visible, the doors fly open, the miracles begin to happen.

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So, I encourage you to take a risk and do something different. Your failure to act is not only just as risky, it’s actually passively aggressive to your dreams. By not acting, you are making a choice.

Perhaps the best way to stop worrying about the how, and just do it, is to remind yourself that staying the same is a risk –you risk feeling a bigger frustration and pain in the future. You risk never having what you want, never living your dreams.

What does that feel like? Now that you’re feeling it, what are you going to do about it?

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Today is the beginning of letting go of fears. Today is the day I make the decision to accept my desire as valid and good. Today is the day I release my need to know how, and know that if I have the desire, I have the means to achieve what I desire.

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