Continually focusing on what isn't only gives more power to it. The universe doesn't really have an opinion about what you want or don't want. It just listens to you. So, if you are telling the universe that the status quo is okay with you, it will listen. The universe doesn't pick and choose who gets what they want. It doesn't say, "Oh, you are a better person, therefore you get what you want, but you? You're not worthy." It simply listens to the messages you are sending out.
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We are all put on this planet to be the fullest possible expression of our true selves. That's what you want, so to do that, you have to step into your authentic self. Stepping into the real you means you have to look elsewhere (from the usual places) to make a change. What you have been doing all along is just getting the same results.
Look to something new. And don't start worrying! Don't ask, "What if it doesn't work?" (That's up to you!) Don't ask, "What if I can't afford it?" (Is it that you don't have the money, or you can't decide to use it for something that could change your life?) And definitely don't ask: "What if I'm not good enough?" (How do you know that to be true? What's the worst thing that could happen?).
Worrying is a natural state of affairs, of course, and we all do it. However, fear and worry are pretty low on the vibration scale! And when we worry, we vibrate at that level. It attracts more to worry about. It attracts more of what you don't want when all you are thinking about is... what you don't want!
So what about those resolutions? Did you try anything different, or did you simply try the same old thing, only "harder," hoping willpower would muscle you through? Well, I'm here to tell you that if you want something different, you have to do something different.
Every time I have invested in myself, my self-development, my business growth (in amounts that might make your hair stand on end!) the universe has brought more opportunities to me, opened more doors - almost like a miracle. But it wasn't a miracle; it was the universe simply listening to me, and responding in kind. It knew I meant business and it knew I was stepping up to the plate, putting some skin in the game. It was proof I was ready for change.
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When you invest in yourself, you are coming from a place of abundance, knowing it will all be returned tenfold to you. The universe hears that you are serious! It knows you believe you are ready to take the next step, and it provides what you need.
Often it comes in forms you don't expect, sometimes disguised as an opportunity. The important point is to recognize the opportunity when it is presented to you.
So, look around. Where are you worrying and stopping yourself? What do you keep telling yourself when you obsessively fear the worst? When you don't believe you're worth it or capable?
Here's a simple exercise: