As I always say, put the oxygen mask on yourself first.
So, to close, if there is no separation between divine and self, then owning your divinity is part of loving yourself... and spreading divine love starts with loving yourself. Feeding your soul, hearing your soul's calling, is your divine obligation because you are here to serve those who need your special gifts. It is when there are unresolved issues, pain, and separation that you actually withhold or simply don't have the overflow to share those gifts.
It is the taking care of the divine vehicle of the body and self that fills your lamp with oil so that you can light the world ever more brightly.
SO, my friends, listen to your soul's calling - and answer the damned phone!