Let’s say you really wanted something: a house, a new suit for that big interview or to pay for college for one of your kids. Maybe you wanted to (ahem) invest in a coaching program. You set your sights on it. You wrote intentions. You were sure you were going to find the money to do what you wanted.
But it didn’t show up.
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What the heck is that all about? I’ll tell you–and this can change your life. (It changed mine!)
You can’t have the desire for something without the means to achieve it in your life. You just can’t see it yet. You have a blind spot. The means to what you desire shows up as an opportunity, not by a check handed to you just because you really, really wished for something.
That blind spot prevented you from seeing an opportunity that was probably right in front of you to make the money you needed to do/buy what it is you wanted so desperately. Don’t blame yourself; it happens to every single one of us.
Blind spots come from your subconscious. It’s a part of you that is programmed to stay the same. Why? Because changing too much scares the crap out of it. And well, you know the old adage, “The devil you know is better than the devil you don’t!” So the subconscious likes it when you play small, don’t change, keep things status quo. Even if you don’t like where you are, your subconscious tells you that change is scary and change is threatening—stay where you are.
Here’s how it happens. Your subconscious belief systems were essentially “dumped” into your subconscious when you were a little kid by what you were told growing up. Don Miguel Ruiz calls it the “story” you are told about who you are and what your values are. This “story” can really be the most powerful part of you when it comes to seeing opportunities. It literally becomes the lens through which you see the world. Your belief that money is hard to come by or that you’ll never find the love of your life is wired somewhere in you–and that is what you see! That is the reality your subconscious tells you to see.
But the actual reality is actually quite a bit different.
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Have you ever had the experience of watching a scenario play out in front of a couple of people and each person sees it differently? Both people are guided by their subconscious to see things that support their own belief systems. It sounds crazy right?
Here’s the crazier part: Napoleon Hill says, opportunity is often “disguised as misfortune or temporary defeat. That’s why so many people can’t see it.” Oooh. A simple example is not getting a job you thought you wanted because a better one was waiting for you.