The Arithmetic Of Fear

Abraham: "Fear is the feeling sensation that is present within you when you have both a desire and a belief that contradicts it."

 

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Desire is a strong sensation. You feel it deep within you, almost at a level you can't articulate. Sometimes you have a desire that is more superficial (meaning, more on the surface), and therefore it is more easily identified: "I want an ice cream cone." "I want to be successful in my career." "I want a new home."

But what is behind that superficial desire? Why do you want the ice cream cone? Why do you want to be successful? Why do you want a new home? Beyond the basic human needs of shelter, food, and love, why do you want it in a certain form? Does it make you feel more in touch with your power? Does an outward manifestation show the world your value (and therefore you feel more in touch with your power)? Does the ice cream cone fill a void within you? Do you simply enjoy beautiful things and ease in life?

Generally, there is more than one reason you desire something - desire is multi- faceted. And it's those little hidden facets that give you the most trouble - the ones that have to do with fear.

Fear is a feeling. It also carries a certain vibration, like all feelings. Generally, it's not based on reality (other than in a life-threatening situation), but on previous thought patterns you created around situations that gave you "trouble" of some kind in the past. You so worry about the psychological discomfort or emotional ache that will ensue if something doesn't work out that you become paralyzed.

 

Look at it this way: Your mind is telling you thoughts that create the fear. You feel powerless when you are in a fearful state. Fear is the most crippling emotion you can feel and it has the heaviest vibration. It stops you dead in your tracks, as you try to change or work toward your deepest desires. It is your personal saboteur. And it attracts more of the same (like all thoughts and feelings).

So how do you release your fear? You begin with self-dialogue. Have a conversation with yourself about where the fear comes from and how real that fear really is. What are you telling yourself about your power that is somehow tied up in your desires and fears?

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It takes some time and self-compassion, and the conversation must be had without judgment (maybe that's next week's post!)

Try to be as objective as you can, while still acknowledging the feelings that show up. (Not acknowledging the feelings only fuels the fear.) Once you acknowledge your feelings (aka Awareness!) begin to tell yourself different thoughts.

 

Begin to introduce more pleasurable associations with what you desire - to replace the fear of not succeeding, of not achieving your desire, or not having the power. You have to change your beliefs so they will align more with your desires and power.

It starts by encouraging your thoughts to move in a more positive direction. Make an effort not to get hung up on how your desires manifest - in an exact form. Just start nudging your subconscious in the direction of power and positivity. This is what changes your beliefs.