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How Children Can HELP Restore Your Positive Energy

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Sometimes children are the wisest of all.

The slow moving security line was about 70-people deep. Still uplifted by days in the warm Caribbean sun and blue-green waters, no one complained. Eye contact and smiles were exchanged between strangers.

Nods of recognition passed between those who might have seen one another at the hotel, on a beach or at a restaurant. Friends and family members laughed, pleasured by shared stories of a good time. Chatting with my husband, and people watching, I entertained myself as we waited.

Scanning the crowd, she caught my eyea light, an unmistakable powerhouse. Shoulder length, wavy brown hair, fewer than three feet tall, weighing about 25 to 30 pounds, wearing a sun dress with big flowers in primary colors all over it, she was captivating. Pink clog-like shoes were her only accessories.

Traveling with her Mom and Dad, this little one had the full attention of everyone.

As the line advanced, she placed her feet parallel to each other and jumped. She didn't walk like the rest of us. She hopped like a bunny. Her move forward completed, she said to her Mom, "I love to jump."

"Yes, you do," her mother replied, making eye contact and smiling.

Apparently happy, in touch with her desires and preferences, expressive, this young lady seemed free and fully alive.

The line snaked, making the "S" shape crowd control experts use to funnel large groups through tight square footage. A woman who, like me, had been watching and admiring the girl, was now close enough to converse with her.

"Hi there," the woman said, smiling at the little girl.

"Hi," she said, leaning forward, lifting her face up to meet the woman, eye-to-eye, her little hand on the rope that separated the two of them.

"How old are you," asked the woman.

"I'm three."

Now, here comes the best part.

The woman said, "You're so cute!"

Without hesitation, self-deprecation or prideful arrogance, the little girl responded simply. "I know!"

Delighted, I laughed. "I know!" Now that's something else: to be cute and know it.

The mother and father looked at their child, and the woman, and smile. The energy and intentions of the exchange, on everyone's part, was healthy, heart-warming and affirming; all pure and positive.

Have you ever taken the time to dive deep and explore the energetic impact of exchanges you experienced in your early life? Were you exposed to energy and intentionswords and nonverbalsthat affirmed and validated you, or diminished and discounted you?

Raised and taught by people who loved us but, often unknowingly, did more to damage our sense of personal power, freedom of self-expression and self-confidence, many of us had the latter experience. But not this young woman.

I asked, "What's your name?"


Summer has great awareness of the truth of who she really is. She knows that she's magnetic; captivating; deserves to be the center of positive attention; has a right to free self-expression; can move and enjoy her body; and can agree, out loud even, without shame, when others acknowledge that she is cute. 

Her beautiful spirit is visiblefree, open and vulnerably expressed. Therein lies her power and charm.

Summer embodies the wonder and magic of the incredible gift she is to the world. Do you? This little one brings joy and light to the world. Her energy and intentionsher thoughts, feelings and beliefs about herself, are aligned.

She knows she is good, safe, is here to enjoy herself and others. She knows it and she shows it.

As we moved through the security linelaptops and electronics out and into the tray; shoes, jackets and purse into another, stepping through the scanning machine (luckily no pat-down this time),then collecting just x-rayed bags, redressing, repacking the laptop and electronics, I had a chance to chat more with Summer and her mother, Steph.

"Summer, you were a hit with all these people. You held everyone's attention. We were all so happy to see you!"

Steph smiled and said, "Everywhere we go, people notice her. It's always like this."

And, what did Summer say?

"I know!"

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