4. Do you want a provider, a partner or both? In the past, a man was considered "good" if he provided money for his household. Now, men are expected to be emotionally available partners. Good "husband material" men grow emotionally, together with their wife and family. Male roles are changing for the better. Today, there is room for him to be a provider and a partner. Husbands and dads are considered strong when they are emotionally attuned to their families.
The way to find the best husband material is to know who you are, know who he is, and to recognize that each person is a unique individual with strengths and weaknesses. No one is going to be a perfect mate in a lifelong relationship. As a team, you can construct a mutually beneficial relationship that lasts a lifetime.