What To Expect After Infidelity & 7 Ways You Can Cope

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What To Expect After Infidelity & 7 Ways You Can Cope [EXPERT]
Heed these helpful hints to understand sexual betrayal, pornography and addiction.

3. Take time for yourself to process what has happened to you. Many people will distract themselves by staying very busy because they are trying to avoid their feelings. Let yourself grieve for your own well-being. If you don't take the time, your feelings will catch up to you, only postponing your acceptance of your partner's infidelity.

4. Gain support for yourself by talking to trusted friends and family. Share your experience with people who will validate your feelings, and try to avoid people who give advice or want to "fix it" for you.

5. Set appropriate physical and emotional boundaries with your partner so you feel safer.

6. Go to a 12-step program meeting such as COSA, a meeting for partners of sex addicts.

7. Seek professional help from a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). Most therapists have limited training to deal with this issue.

Is there hope for the future?

You are not alone; there is hope. Many people have walked down this pathway, and as they begin to heal, they are grateful for the betrayal. They identify the discovery of the betrayal as the time when they "woke up" and started healing. Their lives are so much more fulfilling having gone through this kind of process. They get to define who they are, and who they want to share their life with.  Some choose to stay with their partner, while others chose to leave. Either way, it is a journey that can lead to a richer, more abundant life. Contact me if you would like more information, or would like to meet. 5 Definitive Reasons Not To Get Back With Your Ex

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Teresa Maples

Counselor/Therapist

Teresa Maples MS, LMHC, CSAT, CMAT

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