4. "I think I might love them." But really, the responders could be acting out their fantasies. They could be imagining they have a "feelings of love" for the sex worker. Even in "real" relationships there is an aspect of projecting what you want onto the other person. It makes sense that someone who pays a "repeat" sex worker could imagine he has a "real relationship" with her. I wonder what would happen if he stopped paying?
5. "I derserve it." The responders have a sense of entitlement. In other words they are saying, "I want sex a certain way and I deserve to get it." While we are preprogrammed by design as humans to propagate the earth, similar to animals. We also have the ability to think and feel. Yes someone can pay for sex and feel momentarily satisfied; however, in my opinion they are depriving themselves the joy of true authentic emotional connection with a real person based on mutuality for the long term.
If you have paid sex workers and have tried to stop and keep going back to it, seek professional help. You can overcome this behavior. There is a way out. You can click on any of the links to contact Sex Addicts Anonymous(SAA), Sexaholics Anonymous(SA), Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous(SLAA), Prodigals, Inc., PureDesire, SexHelp.com or myself for help.
How do you get love and emotional intimacy?
It all begins with a commitment to being the healthiest you can be, from the inside out. Learn to love all the parts of yourself even the places that hurt or feel shameful. Healthy sexuality between two people, involves vulnerability and safety in the relationship. Both partners are attached to one another physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
This model of relationship mutually benefits each partner. It takes work and time to develop emotional intimacy, and it also requires delayed gratification. By learning how to be a safe person emotionally with a chosen safe person, you can develop a more complex positive response system that is stable and sustainable over time. Choose wisely. Why Do Married Men Pay For Sex?
Teresa Maples MS is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington State. Connect with me for more information about healing from those things that get in the way of living life to its fullest.