6 Need-To-Know Tips For Online Dating After Divorce


Dating In The Digital Age: Online Dating After Divorce
Ready for a second chance at love? It could be one click away.

4. Be Realistic
Indeed, even when the email, text and phone conversations go well, it is still a long shot that a date will lead to a romance. In this digital age, people have many different personas (according to Kenneth Gergen, professor of psychology at Swarthmore College), and the online persona can be witty, engaging, intelligent, while the real person sitting across the dinner table from you could be reserved or even dull. Tip: Keep your expectations realistic.

5. Keep First Date Conversations Light
Almost all of the people who responded to my survey had been in the position of hearing a horror story of divorce. This is a major turn-off for both men and women, so keep things simple and light when you first meet.


6. Have A Safety Plan
Especially for women, it's always a good idea to have a safety plan. When you first meet your online date, let two people know where you are going and have a plan to check in with a friend. Tip: Google the person you are going to meet for the first time.

Overall, the more self-aware people are, and also the more people know about what they are looking for, the better the outcome. Don't give up on love!

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