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Why Rihanna & Other Celebrities Love 'Bad Men' [EXPERT]

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Read this article to avoid following in Rihanna's footsteps!
Find out why some women like Rihanna stay (unfortunately) in toxic, damaging relationships.

Recent reports of the professional collaboration between Rihanna and Chris Brown are a little irritating. If Rihanna is this close to Chris Brown, she is in over her head. You cannot be half in and half out of a relationship with destructive men like Brown.

Women like Rihanna who are targeted by self-serving or toxic men like Chris Brown have certain qualities that make them more appealing and worthy of a hot pursuit after his fists fly and it all crumbles. It’s hard to find women who tolerate on this level so Brown is driven to get her back on his good side and it looks like he's done a good job. Make Today A Love Checkup Day EXPERT

When women like Rihanna get sucked back in, it’s because they don’t know how they are being played. Brown gets to save his reputation, at Rihanna’s expense because her going near him makes everyone wonder how he could be so bad? It also makes us less sympathetic to her and she loses credibility. I want to scream yet I should know better. I have more understanding than most about these issues because I’ve walked this walk myself but a reunion was bound to happen, it’s par for the course. Sadly, Rihanna is proving herself to be a toxic relationship type. 3 Ways To Get Over Your Ex & Not Get Sucked Back In EXPERT

When you are a toxic relationship type, it’s like you have an addiction to the drama and intensity within relationships. You attract bad men by default and give them lots of chances.  You also have a hard time recovering from them or aren't fully recovered when contact is made again so you are always at risk of returning when these guys turn on the charm, the apologies, the tears, and the friendship, because you lead into relationships without any self protection. Do Men Really Prefer Bitches? VIDEO

Many celebrity women attract "Mr. Wrongs" repeatedly. Shaking these guys and starting over is just as hard for them as it is for the rest of us. Rihanna is clearly not the only "A-Lister" to have such major man drama in her life. Others include (the late) Whitney Houston, Kim Kardashian, Jennifer Lopez, Sandra Bullock, Christie Brinkley and her daughter Alexa Ray and even Halle Berry, who admittedly contemplated suicide after one of her breakups. These issues run deep and last a lifetime; they are not coincidental. Women who attract toxic men and bad relationships share exaggerated levels of certain characteristics that get them trapped and keep them stuck.

For starters, they lead with more empathy and compassion for others by putting themselves last without even thinking twice about it, even when it puts them in harms way, often drawing the conclusion about other people too quickly, or too soon. Their radars are way off, it’s more than being unsuspecting.

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