Divorcing Destruction~Think Straight & Think Strong

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Divorcing Destruction~Think Straight & Think Strong
“I do” does not mean forever any more; it is, and always should be, conditional for every woman

We have to remember that the first real gift we give our children comes from leaving a man who mistreats us; it is a very powerful lesson, and a clear message. We can teach something positive from a perspective of loss, or position our leaving as a gain. It doesn’t matter how hard it gets, where you have to live, what you had before, how you can’t keep up with everything, or the fact that you now have no money to fluff them up with the extras that all children should enjoy, beyond a place to live. Women must never stay where there is danger, destructiveness, or pain-not for the kids, not for the pet, not for the money, not for any reason. If you stay, you jeopardize your children's physical and emotional health, the development of their psyche, and you compromise their relationship radar~setting them up to see horrible interaction, destructive love, bad relationships, and unheard or disregarded women’s voices as an acceptable norm. “I do” does not mean forever any more; it is, and always should be, utterly conditional for every woman.

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