The latter half of the year with all of its holiday cheer and requisite obligations can bring stress and burn out at the best of times. If you have the misfortune to be going through some of your "worst of times" during the last couple months of the year the holiday season can take on a whole new meaning. A meaning that you had never planned on getting acquainted with. Unfortunately, life does not work on our own personal desired timeline. While the bulk of us would love to have the plans that we outlined for ourselves happen in the time frame that we had dreamed (grad school done at 25, meet love of our lives later that year, engaged at 27, married by 28, first child at 30) life tends to happen as it may. That being said, we have all had times in our lives where we looked up and seemingly out of the blue happened to be dealing with an inconvenient blow. Didn’t Father Time and the Fates get the memo that we were not supposed to get laid off from our dream job for example?! Hello? Is anyone listening?
Or, perhaps, you felt that this potential blow was coming but you chose to quiet that voice, ignore the warnings, and try to push through. You weren’t ready to let go. So when he started coming over less, cancelling dates, and being slow to return messages and phone calls you chocked it up to him being busy at work. When the intimacy slowed down and he rolled over when you had on his favorite lingerie you took his word when he said that he was tired. When you ran into his sister at the mall and she expressed surprise at seeing you (turns out that he had told his family that your relationship was over and that he would be attending Christmas dinner solo), well-you tried to ignore that too. She must be mistaken…and you pushed on. Who breaks up at Christmas time? Well, apparently you do is what you thought when he told you two days after the mall incident that, "This just isn’t working, and you deserve better. I’ve met someone else, and I want to be fair to you."
Merry Christmas. Right? NO! Who can be merry at a time like this? You are ALONE! The couples at the mall walking and holding hands, those sappy jewelry and car commercials where the woman gets the beautiful and extravagant present wrapped with a bow? There are articles in the magazines about what to buy for "him" for the holidays. Your parents are asking if he will be coming up with you on Christmas Eve? The best friend who got engaged on Thanksgiving and wants you to help plan the wedding…who is going to go to the Christmas tree lighting with you? Who is going to take you ice skating? Is the world conspiring against you? Hello?! You are ALONE. And it is Christmas. How Do I Handle My First Holiday Alone?