10 Major Parenting Mistakes You Can Easily Avoid

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We never said being a parent is easy, but it can be easier when you follow a few rules!

7. You blame the child for your reaction. "Why do you make me yell at you? We were having a great day until you ruined it!" This teaches your child to blame others for his/her own actions. Is a 2-year-old really responsible for you choosing to yell at them? Can the mistake of a toddler take away all the fun you had earlier in the day? Own your decisions and choose your words parents: "I'm yelling because I am frustrated right now." Then, give them the power by asking them what they can do to help get back on track.

6. You make unrealistic and idle threats. Chances are, you won't really leave your child at the mall alone and you certainly are not going to break his/her arm if he/she doesn't stop pulling things off the shelves (and if you do, your problems go way beyond this article). So don't even say it! You are teaching your children to make threats to get their way and you're telling them that you can't be trusted to tell the truth. If you are going to make threats, be sure they are things you can realistically follow through with, which brings me to the next big mistake...

5. You don't follow through on consequences. If you use counting as a parenting tool, make sure your children know what will happen if they get counted out. "I'm going to count to three and you had better sit down." Then what? So after the third time of complying, they decide to see what you're made of, then the negotiation begins. Have a better plan; set agreements in advance and stick to them. "We will be at the playground until 3 p.m. and then we will go get pizza for lunch! If you fight with me when it's time to leave, there will be no pizza. Do you understand?" Then, it's simply a matter of following through.

4. You end your requests or commands with "OK?" This is an easy one. If "no" is not an acceptable answer, then don't ask if they are OK with it.  "It's time for us to start getting ready to leave. You have two more minutes to play." Period. You can do it. Keep reading...

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