So plan together for your new marriage to each other, and decide together what that will look like. Talk about your new sex life, your new emotional life, and your new recreational life. How will you connect now that will be different than last time? Have some fun talking about your longings and your desires. Get in touch with your own needs and try and validate your partner's needs. Make the visioning of your future an ongoing plan that you revisit often; even every day if you can. These three steps, the TALKING, the FEELING and the VISIONING will move you forward and help you to take advantage of the shake up in your relationship. If you need extra help to do these steps, contact a qualified professional in your area to move things along for you. For more information about couples therapy after an affair, contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or go to my website at www.drtammynelson.com Dr Tammy Nelson is a psychotherapist in private practice and the author of Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.
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