These are complicated and deeply emotional questions. For Paul and Jane they are life and death decisions. Before you judge anyone’s affair or personal life, take into account that each of us is only trying to cope with the pain of our own inner lives. It is quite possible that affairs are transient and will not last. The guilt and pain of the secrets create conflict and emotional crisis and many times friends and family need support and help to get over them.
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