Is An Affair Ever Forgivable?

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Is An Affair Ever Forgivable?
How do you ever get over something that hurtful? But what if some affairs are justified?

These are complicated and deeply emotional questions. For Paul and Jane they are life and death decisions. Before you judge anyone’s affair or personal life, take into account that each of us is only trying to cope with the pain of our own inner lives. It is quite possible that affairs are transient and will not last. The guilt and pain of the secrets create conflict and emotional crisis and many times friends and family need support and help to get over them.

Dr. Tammy Nelson is a world renowned sex and relationship expert and the author of The New Monogamy and Getting the Sex You Want. She can be found at www.drtammynelson.com

For more information on creating your new monogamy and a new relationship together go to https://www.drtammynelson.com/products-page/book/newmonogamyautographed/

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Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC http://www.drtammynelson.com/ email me at tammy@drtammynelson.com

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