Because actions > words.
Hearing "I love you" feels great, but action amplifies those words.
Here are six heartfelt ways to show your love in your relationship. Doing these things will insure that your partner feels loved and will make life more fun.
1. Sharing the work.
Life is busy, especially when you're working and raising a family. There's always more to do than time to do it. Having a partner, who shares in the work of running a household is a huge relief.
A secret that many men don't know is that folding the laundry or helping with the kids' bath and bed routine is great foreplay.
2. Showing appreciation.
When you've been with your partner for a while, sometimes you take for granted that he always takes the garbage out without being asked. Remember to let him know you appreciate it. If your partner did a repair job that needed to be done, let her know you noticed it.
Often, people will stop doing things when they feel it doesn't make a difference to their partner.
We all make mistakes and it's tempting during a fight to mention things your partner did months or years ago. Don't.
If the offense is something your partner does often, you will have another chance to bring it up. If it's an exception to the norm, let it go.
4. Sharing touch.
People have different levels of need for being touched. Be sensitive to the types of touch and how much touch your partner wants or needs. Sex is important, but foot rubs, back rubs, and head rubs are all great ways to express love.
Starting the day with a long hug is a good way to send each other out into the world. Cuddling at the end of the day is an opportunity to reconnect and let your partner know they are loved.
5. Prioritizing time together.
In the busyness of life, sometimes you start to think, "We live together, so we do not need to set aside time to be together." This is the wrong attitude.
One of the best ways to prevent an affair is to have a weekly date with your spouse. You may think you don't have time, but there are creative ways to sneak in a date.
Meet for lunch during the workday, drop the kids off with a friend or grandparents and go out for brunch on the weekend, or go out for late-night appetizers after the kids are settled in bed on a Friday or Saturday night. You can even get up early on a weekend and go for a walk before the kids wake up.
Another important routine is to touch base each day, even if it's only for a few minutes. One creative idea is to wash the dishes together. If privacy is important, don’t worry; kids usually steer clear of the kitchen when there is work to do.
6. Thinking about your partner.
Let your partner know you are thinking about them.
You can do this by sending a quick text: "When___happened, I thought of you." When you have a break, you can call to check in about their day or to ask about an important project, meeting, or presentation.
Another thing you can do is leave a note or a favorite candy bar for your partner to discover as they about their routine.
Every time you show your love with actions, you make a small deposit into your partner's emotional bank account. Those deposits sustain your bond and provide a cushion that will help you both get through the difficult days or weeks.
Take a few moments today to think about how you can show how much you love your partner and enrich your relationship.