Your Most Important Relationship, Uncovered

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Your Most Important Relationship, Uncovered

What happens to you when you reach for something bigger, let's say a huge dream of yours?  I can tell you what used to happen to me. My brain would yell, "I DON'T WANT TO DO IT! I'M SCARED! I'M NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THIS!"


Even though I really wanted to achieve my goal, it was too frightening because I hadn't experienced it yet. The fear would paralyze me and the goal was out of my reach. However, now when I step into something bigger, I'm jumping up and down with excitement yelling, "WOO HOO, I'M STEPPING INTO A NEW PARADIGM OF MY LIFE! ISN'T THIS WONDERFUL?!" 

If you are curious as to what caused this shift in me, well, it all has to do with the most important relationship in one's life.

In this article, I'm going to share three juicy tidbits with you:

First, I'll reveal the secret of your most important relationship and why it needs to have top priority in your life. Second, I'll share with you what relationship most people are focused on -  which causes much of their unhappiness. Third, I'll disclose an incredible tool that you already have at your disposal that can be used to help you get out of your own way. Using this tool will help you actualize what you most desire.

Now, it's time to ask the question. What's the most important relationship in YOUR life? What relationship gives you 100% support, has your back, loves you unconditionally and even guides you? Now, you may have answered: my family member; my partner; my mentor, therapist or coach; or even, my dog.

Juicy Tidbit #1:
Your number One most important relationship in your life is...YOU.

That's right ... YOU!

I'm not talking about the YOU that has a name with a body, an address and telephone number. Or, the YOU that has an identity, a role or a profession. No, I'm talking about the YOU that is really YOU - your Higher Self. Interesting right? I'm in the business of helping people relate and connect with others but I'm sharing that THE most important relationship is with YOU. When you truly and authentically love your Self, then life becomes irresistible, magical and miraculous.  A great relationship with YOU needs to be your top priority.
 
Juicy Tidbit #2:
Before I tell you about how to create an amazing and loving relationship with who you really are, let's first get a good understanding of who you are not. Your lower egoic self (which causes much of your unhappiness) is NOT YOU. It's yours, but not you. It lives through the eyes of fear, likes to be in be in control, hates changes and often gets stuck in anger, upset, judgment, blame, victimhood, anxiety, worry, guilt, competition - and this is just to name a few of it's characteristics. Your lower self is comfortable with what's familiar and wants to stay put, even though you may desire a change. That's because it fears, fights or rejects that which it doesn't understand or know.

This article was originally published at Tamara Green. Reprinted with permission.
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