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What's Better Than Sex? Sexy Sex (Obviously!)

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Nothing is so riveting, so attractive, or so exciting than to be with someone who is being their sexy self. What I mean is, they are being the very person that they truly are. They are not hiding, not judging, and not constricting who they are. They are just being. Doesn't that sound refreshing?

The development of your sexuality begins earlier than you may think: We are born potent and sexual. Children love to explore their bodies and to touch themselves. It's natural for them to do this, as they explore the way their bodies work. It feels like the most normal thing in the world for them to do and they certainly aren't judging themselves for doing it. But what do we parents do when we notice them exploring? We tell the child to stop, or we make a judgmental statement like, "Nice girls don't do that." Or, equally detrimental, we don't give enough privacy to budding teens who need to experience the deliciousness of exploring their own bodies.

As an adult, you carry the subconscious memories of what you were told about your body and your sexuality. That can make a negative impact on your sex life. It's time to bust through those lies and reclaim your incredible sexual potency now! It's time to exude your magnetic energy and your amazing power of sexy, irresistible you! 

Get Ready For Some Seriously Sexy Sex:

  1. You are an energetic being. You are nothing but energy, just like everything else in this Universe. So play with your energy by pushing it, pulling it and swirling it all around you and letting it whoosh right through you. Have some fun and practice playing with energy by going into a public place, such as a mall, and start pulling people's energy.

    Don't make it a big deal, just have a seat someplace and say to yourself, "I'm pulling everyone's energy now." Feel engaged and attractive. You'll know that you are getting this when people start to look at you as they walk by. Don't give up if they are not noticing you, yet. The key is to practice this often so that you get the hang of it. The other key is to not let their energy land on you, but rather to whoosh through you. Imagine that you are a piece of cloth and that energy flows like water through the weave of your cloth. Do you feel how that works?

  2. Repeat these statements, like mantras, for at least three days. Notice that the more you say these declarations, the more you experience being them. Notice your magnetism and the power of you. Enjoy being your sexy self.
  • I am power!
  • I am unique!
  • I am magnetic!
  • I am sexy!
  • I own who I am!
  • I love who I am!
  • I experience orgasmic sex!

Time For Sexy Sex!
You did it! You have reclaimed your original state of being and now it's time to have sexy sex. Remember, you are power, so use it to your advantage. Look right into the eyes of your lover with confidence and smile. Start undressing him or her. Tell your partner what you are going to do to them. Be bold and tell your lover what you'd like done to you.

Now that you've become a pro at playing with energy, go ahead and pull in their energy. Then take yours and wrap it around your partner. Have their energy flow through you and yours flow through them. The key here is having zero judgment about you, your companion, or the experience that you are having together. By letting go of all judgment, you are in the space of allowance or presence, which is the key to having truly sexy sex.
As long as you stay present, you will both experience magical bliss. Take your time and enjoy. After you both are deliciously satisfied, immediately touch your foreheads together. This is where your third Eye Chakra is. Doing this will activate your pineal gland which then takes you both up into your Higher Levels. It's as if you are leaving your third dimension-selves behind and stepping into your fourth or fifth dimension energy vibration. Not only can you have an amazing physical experience, but also a blissful spiritual experience, as well. Now that's what I call sexy sex!

By the way, being the master of your energy can help you in all areas of your love life. To experience 45 minutes of rockin' energy shifting, click here for my complimentary Loving Relationship Guidance Session.

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