5 Reasons Why Loving Your Body is Good for Your Relationship

By

5 Reasons Why Loving Your Body is Good for Your Relationship
Make loving you body your top New Year's Resolution!

“Do I look fat in this?”

It’s not just women who ask their partner this no-win question. Plenty of men dislike their bodies joining the virtual epidemic of women who do. It’s almost become the norm to hate your body-- or at the very least, to criticize certain parts.

 

This negatively spills over onto your relationship.

When you’re habitually critical and insecure about your body it comes through in how you talk, walk, kiss, make love and act. When you ask the classic question, “Do I look fat in this?” or otherwise make it your partner’s job to reassure you that you’re attractive, you put your partner in an impossible situation.

If he or she says, “You look great!” your body hatred won’t let you believe it. You’ve already made up your mind that you don’t look good and whatever your partner says will filter through those beliefs regardless of what he or she thinks. So you might be better off NOT asking that question and, instead, start accepting and loving your body as it is.

If you need more motivation for changing your attitude, here are 5 reasons why loving your body is beneficial for your relationship...

1. You're more fun to be around.
Have you ever been with someone who constantly puts her or himself down and can’t seem to talk about anything else but perceived limitations? It’s a huge downer, isn’t it? When you learn how to accept and love your body, you’ll be more open and accessible to your partner. 

2. You free yourself to actually enjoy your relationship.
It takes a LOT of energy to hate on how you look! When you stop exhausting yourself with criticisms and negative judgments about your body size and appearance, you’ll have a greater capacity to truly enjoy the time you spend with your partner and you may feel more adventurous to try new activities too.

3. You're less distracted.
Instead of focusing so completely on worries that other people (especially your partner) think you’re “fat,” “ugly” or otherwise unattractive, you’ll be able to really listen to the conversations others are trying to have with you. You’ll be able to really engage with your partner instead of being distracted by an onslaught of self-critical thoughts.  

4. You teach your partner how to treat you.
The way you talk about and treat yourself is a powerful example for your partner. The more you make peace with the way you look (and even appreciate it), the more likely your partner will follow along. And, by the way, healthy self-confidence is sexy regardless of what size you wear.

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Susie & Otto Collins

Author

Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
Other Articles/News by Susie & Otto Collins:

Write Your Own Happy Relationship Story

By

It can be worrisome and may even keep you up at night! We’re talking about studies and poll results about relationships that get shared all over the web and talked about by your friends and family. Unfortunately, some of the findings of social science research are misunderstood, taken out of context or don’t disclose the small sample ... Read more

3 Words That Will Ruin Your Relationship

By

We’ve said them. You’ve said them. Couples said them. Everybody has said (out loud or in our minds) these three very innocent words whose combined meaning packs a mean punch that can knock everything that’s sweet and wonderful right out of a love relationship or marriage. In fact, these three average and ordinary words can even make it ... Read more

I Love You, But...

By

You can't understand why your boyfriend claims you don't show him any respect. You're baffled that your wife says you're "impossible" to please. None of what your partner says makes sense to you because—in your mind—you're always loving and supportive. Before you totally discount what your special someone alleges, ... Read more

See More

 
PARTNER POSTS
Latest Expert Videos
ASK YOURTANGO MORE QUESTIONS
Must-see Videos
SEE MORE VIDEOS
Most Popular