Is Your Jealousy Pushing Your Spouse Toward Divorce?
By Susie And Otto Collins. Posted on .
You've probably noticed that we talk about jealousy as a habit. This is because it's something you've done with enough regularity that it has become part of your usual reaction to certain situations or even to particular people.
Jealousy requires practice (and patience) to change. Know that it CAN be changed.
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Notice the signs of jealousy as early as you can. For you it might be tightness in your stomach or shoulders or feelings of fear or anger. Now, the next time you are aware of these indicators, you can pause and check in with yourself.
Don't ignore or deny how you are feeling. That will only allow your jealousy to grow.
Notice what kinds of situations trigger your jealousy. This will help you be especially aware of those jealousy indicators. You can also create agreements with your partner that will help give you the support you need to be different in these jealousy-inducing situations.
If, for example, you tend to feel insecure and jealous while at the pool or the beach with your mate because of all of the good-looking people in bikinis, know this. Be especially aware of your thoughts during a triggering situation and don't “run off” with thoughts that make your jealousy bigger.
Ask your partner to stay connected with you. This could be something as simple as your spouse making eye contact with you or holding your hand periodically.
Be willing to ask your spouse to be a source of support as you practice new habits instead of jealousy. At the same time, don't expect your partner to “solve” your jealousy problem for you. Show him or her that you are stepping up and making significant changes.
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This combined effort can bring you two closer together again.
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Get Susie and Otto Collins' free ebook 7 Jealousy-Stopping Secrets here: http://www.nomorejealousy.com Susie and Otto are relationship coaches and authors who specialize in helping couples create a close, connected and passionate relationship.
