Where Did My Mr. Right Go?

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Where Did My Mr. Right Go?
What to do when the glow is gone and you're unhappy with your relationship.

Tiffany still loves him deeply and can see that the foundations of a healthy marriage, like trust, are still intact for them.

Be the “right” partner.

When you decide that you do want to stay in this relationship and work to improve it so that you can feel satisfied again, it's then time for you to start to make a shift.

The kind of shift that we're going to advocate may not be appealing or comfortable for you to read about or do. But we encourage you to stick with us here and give this a try.
In order to save your relationship, it's vital that you become the “right” partner for the kind of passionate and connected relationship you would like.

We know, it might seem that it's your partner who has changed and who is dropping the proverbial ball in your relationship...and he or she might truly have changed and may actually be letting you down.

But, unfortunately, the only person in this world whom you can really change is you.
That's why we suggest that you start with you.

Look at the dynamics between yourself and your partner from the point of view of an observer. Of course, this is not easy to do because you are in the relationship-- but try it anyway.

From this observer's vantage point, make note of the habits that you've fallen into or the tendencies that you have that may create distance in your relationship. In particular, look for the ways that you might dampen or extinguish the spark in your marriage or relationship.

Come up with some ideas for how you might realistically start to turn those disconnecting habits and tendencies around. You might also think of some requests that you will make of your partner about specific habits he or she has.

Everyone and every relationship changes over time. Even with the inevitability of change, you and your partner don't have to grow apart and become bored or dissatisfied.

Be willing to know exactly what it is that you want and then be courageous enough to be the kind of person who can work with-- instead of against-- your mate in order to create that connected and spark-filled relationship.
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the relationship they desire.  Click here to get their free ebook, Passionate Heart-Lasting Love.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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