What's on Your Relationship Bucket List?

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What's on Your Relationship Bucket List?

The great news is you don't have wait until it's possibly too late to have the kind of relationship you want. Create your own relationship bucket list and then actually go do it!

Give yourself permission to dream big.

 

If you're like a lot of people, making a relationship bucket list may be uncomfortable and challenging because you're not used to thinking beyond what you have with your partner now.

You might be grateful to just have someone special in your life and don't want to disturb things by even considering something more. You may look at the relationships that your friends or family members have and think that, in comparison, yours isn't so bad after all.

But...

A part of you may be a disappointed or dissatisfied. Maybe there's a voice inside of you that is calling for more and you silence it.

We encourage you to continue feeling grateful for your partner and your relationship AND to give yourself permission to dream. Dream BIG!

Without making your partner wrong, to blame, inferior or lacking in some way, write down what you'd love to experience in your relationship. This might be a quality or certain way of interacting. This could be specific experiences.

If there were no limits in your life, what would you be thrilled to share with your partner?

Don't censor yourself and just write down what comes into your mind.

You can use your bucket list as a way to get closer to your partner. If you choose, share what you've written down with your partner. Let him or her know that you're using this as a motivation to make your relationship even better than it is. Be clear that this isn't a gripe or blame list.

It is an invitation for you both to take your relationship to a place beyond either of your expectations.

Together or by yourself, choose (at least) one doable bucket list item. Set a time line and do what it takes to put the wheels in motion to follow through and do this bucket list action or change.
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the relationship they desire.  Click here to get their free ebook, Passionate Heart-Lasting Love.


 

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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