Technology Rules for Couples Who Want to Stay Connected

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Technology Rules for Couples Who Want to Stay Connected
Do this and not that for a close and happy relationship...

Creating a close and passionate relationship needs to be one of your top priorities if it's going to be your reality. You don't have to choose between your career and your marriage or your kids and your relationship.

Come up with agreements to connect in a high quality way every day that feel manageable and that you both will keep. These might include having an uninterrupted talk for 5 minutes every day to a weekly or monthly date night that's strictly just for fun. 

Don't take technology too seriously.
If you have a habit of analyzing and stressing out about the things your partner (or you) posts to a social networking site or texts, this is a sign that you're taking technology far too seriously! It's not okay for anyone to be cruel or insensitive in an email, text or post, but don't make up a story that turns something innocent and casual into more than it really is.

If you are offended or triggered by something your partner sends your way, read it again and focus on the literal words in the message or post. If you’re still upset about it, when you two can be face-to-face, ask your partner, “Please help me understand what you meant by.....” and really listen to the response.

Do text, Tweet and Facebook for flirting and fun.
Use technology in a way that enhances your relationship instead of adding more challenges to what you already have going on. Save the serious talks for when you and your partner can be sure you're not distracted and when you can minimize misunderstandings-- when you are alone and can look one another in the eye.

Be flirty, sensual and have kind-hearted fun with your partner with technology. Send him a mid-day text that says, “Can't wait to be alone together tonight!” to build anticipation. Post a link to a romantic music video or a loving quote on her Facebook timeline to make her smile.

When used wisely, technology can be a wonderful way to get creative and extend passion and connection throughout the time when you two are apart.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
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