Technology Rules for Couples Who Want to Stay Connected

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Technology Rules for Couples Who Want to Stay Connected
Do this and not that for a close and happy relationship...

Compare what you can do today with a phone, computer or another electronic device with what was possible 5 years ago and you'll be amazed!

From opposite ends of your city (or even further), you can coordinate with your partner about who will pick up the dry cleaning or where you want to go for dinner. The two of you can share about amusing or thought-provoking events from your day immediately after they happen.

Communication has been made so easy....and so difficult.

Advances in technology have brought new challenges. Even with all of the devices and means by which a couple can stay in touch, in many ways, communication that truly connects has become much more difficult.

Here are a few reasons why...

  • It's easier to misinterpret a comment or off-handed remark.
  • There are more distractions online.
  • An over-reliance on technology for communication can happen. 

With anything, there are hidden and negative consequences and with technology this is especially so. We have become a plugged-in culture and this isn't always healthy for our love relationships or marriages.

If you are in a long distance relationship, technology may be your only option to keep in regular contact with your beloved. When this is the case, be smart and aware of the pitfalls.

Follow these technology rules to keep communication, trust and intimacy alive and well in your relationship:

Don't use technology to end an argument or make a big decision.
Just because you can now reach your partner just about any moment of any day, doesn't mean you always should. If the two of you had a disagreement as you left the house that morning, resist the temptation to hash it out over text or email.

It's understandable that you might not want to worry and stew around all day about what happened, but don't risk deepening the divide by trying to settle things via technology.

Do set aside specific time to resolve conflicts.
Send an email asking your partner to sit down with you that evening (or the next time you'll be able to be alone together) to talk about the looming decision or argument that's cropped up. When you two are face-to-face, you are less likely to misunderstand each other. You can rely on body language cues and physical touch to create an environment of loving speaking and listening.

Don't crowd out date night.
No matter how often you and your partner text and IM (instant message) one another throughout the day, this is no substitute for a date night together. Life can get busy, but don't sacrifice quality when it comes to the ways you two regularly interact.

Do make connecting a priority.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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