“The Real Me Would Have Been Perfect for Him!”
By Susie And Otto Collins. Posted on .
When you notice that you're tensed up and possibly inflating the truth or hiding who you really are, pause (even if it means there's awkward silence) and take a deep breath. Recognize what you are doing and invite yourself to be genuine and honest.
Appreciate the real you.
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Especially if you struggle with insecurity, it might feel like an impossible instruction to appreciate yourself-- the real you.
When you're not at a party or on a date, practice accepting and appreciating who you are.
Resist the urge to appreciate who you'd like to be or who you used to be. Instead, really look at yourself and find anything you can be okay with and maybe some things about yourself that you value.
These can be general aspects like: compassionate, kind, sensitive, decisive, focused, passionate, etc. They can also be very specific things such as: “I like my deep brown eyes,” “I appreciate that I am patient with little children” or “I feel good about the hard work I do at my job.”
The idea here is to find and then build upon an authentic feeling of self-appreciation. This makes it easier to be who you truly are when you are with others.
Let the real you come through.
Now is the exciting part... Use your self-acceptance and appreciation as a springboard to shine. Yes, you can shine and allow yourself to be who you are. Know that you ARE attractive and amazing despite and because of the things that you believe are negatives.
Remember that it's the real you who will most effectively and easily draw in your perfect match.
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors of many programs, including Automatic Attraction Secrets-- your guide to easily attracting your perfect partner.
